Do you need to understand why you are the way you are before you can heal?

And the answer to that is:

F*CK NO YOU DON’T…but you can if you want 😃

Almost all of the mainstream counseling/healing strategies floating around today involve some degree of teasing out nuances from your past that shaped your mind and are now contributing to your issues as an adult. Now I’m not knocking that, whatsoever. But I also know there is no one-size-fits-all when it comes to healing.

If the whole looking backwards in order to move forwards premise resonates with you - GREAT, I’m glad, I love it, keep doin what you’re doin darlin’. But if per chance that seems a little energetically topsy-turvy to you, read on ->

Maybe you want to create something brand new in your life, you want to reinvent yourself, and it just doesn’t make sense to you to put energy towards the past when you’re not wanting to go in that direction. Heck, neuroscience tells us that our memories literally change every time we revisit them¹…so our recollections aren’t even accurate. Are you missing something? Is a mysterious subconscious belief going to sneak up on you and bite ya in the ass?

Here’s the deal, conscious and subconscious beliefs are just neural synapses...nothing fancy...and they have the property of deteriorating and dying if you don’t consistently activate them. So if you have some beliefs that are holding you back in your adult life, it's because you are keeping them active. The problem is not in the past, the problem – the one you have control over – is in the present. In the moment you can choose to buy into a belief that does not serve you, or you can deliberately reach for a better feeling thought and create a new belief that does serve you.

Well how do you know if you’re activating a belief that doesn’t serve you?

YOU DON'T FEEL GOOD.

How you feel is your real-time indicator that gives you feedback about the alignment of your thoughts, perceptions, and behaviors.

When you feel good, you are thinking and perceiving things in a way that is aligned with your inner being, higher self, Source.

When you feel bad, you are thinking and perceiving things in a way that is contrary to how your inner being, higher self, Source perceives them.

It doesn’t get much clearer than that!

Now the problem is some people (most people) don’t value feeling good. They ignore their feelings and even think it’s normal to feel bad. Now I've studied human physiology for a long time and have yet to find a bodily process that is beneficially enhanced by consistently feeling bad; however, consistently feeling good does absolute wonders for the body. So it seems to me that we were designed for the latter...

The choice is yours. Nothing about this experience is fixed. No one can hold you back, no one can f*ck you up beyond repair, no one has that kind of power over you. Beliefs are simply thoughts that you consistently think and they are yours to create, edit, and delete.

At any point you can make the decision to become someone new, the person you’ve always wanted to be, the authentic version of you that will make yourself proud.

“Decide” in the Latin literally means to cut off all other options. It’s like sailing to a new, uninhabited island and then burning the boat as you get off.

Likewise, you can decide to reinvent yourself and burn all the other paths that lead to a mediocre life.

Healing can be an elaborate process, or it can be a simple decision to move forward while feeling good. We all have things to heal from, and it’s usually not our fault, but it is our responsibility. There is no wrong way or right way to go about things...just let your feelings be your guide. XO

1. Bridge DJ, Paller KA. Neural correlates of reactivation and retrieval-induced distortion. J Neurosci. 2012;32(35):12144–12151. doi:10.1523/JNEUROSCI.1378-12.2012